Looking for the secrets on how to be a happy mom? Look no further! Here are my 7 tips on how to avoid Motherhood burnout.
The 7 Secrets to an Easier Mom Home Life When You are Overworked and Stressed Out.
I am a Mom of two little ones (6 and 2 years old). I was working a corporate job when they were both born and currently am at stay home. Both situations can cause parenting highs and lows. I understand being stressed out and overworked. Unfortunately that stress can over take the joys of motherhood. Let’s see what we can do to help you find that joy again.
Okay, now with that out of the way, I’m super excited to share the top 7 secrets I discovered on my OWN path to creating an easier home life and eliminate stress. Let’s start with #1.
Secret #1: Keep it simple
One of the biggest stressors in my life is clutter in my home. I’m sure it’s a worry for you too. Doesn’t it feel good to clean off the counters and donate any unused toys? Sometimes less is more.
Make a plan and go room by room to declutter. Purge any unnecessary items, donate, and organize rooms. This will help clear your head. Remember to take your time and set small goals. Even cleaning a corner of a room will be helpful.
Make a declutter plan to go room by room . Pick a new room to organize and purge each week.
Secret #2: Plan out your week
Having a flexible weekly plan and schedule will help you and your family not feel overwhelmed with all amount of things you need accomplish. Also thinking ahead and planning meals for the week will drastically help simplify your week. Listing out tasks like chores or to do’s that need to be done each day will help take the stress out of your huge to-do list.
Snag a paper daily planner where you can pick a time to write out and plan your week or use a calendar on your phone. Decide meals ahead of time, write out appointments, plan out daily chores and other things that come up through out the week. I promise it will be way more manageable to see everything you need to do. When it’s done cross it off or check it off. (which is very thrilling 🙂 ) Here are some weekly note pads I like to use for my week. Weekly sticky notes, undated weekly planner
On Sundays plan out what needs to get done for the upcoming week. Plan out dinner meals by the day, list errands that need to get done and any other to-dos.
Secret #3: Drop the SuperMom complex
NO ONE, I repeat is SuperMom. You can try but you will get burnt out I promise. You can not and will not be able do it all. The key is to ask for help or accept when it’s offered. First time Moms often think they should be able to do it all, because thats what is expected right? But it’s not. Others want to help even if it’s a load of laundry or watch the baby while you run out of a cup of coffee.
Asking your partner or family for some help is not defeat. You are not a super hero. Letting those around you know you need a helping hand is so important.
Ask for and accept help and learn when to say no. No one can do it all!
Secret #4: Self care
A happy mama always remember to take care of herself. I know taking care of your family is your main priority and that usually means looking after your self falls to the bottom of the list. Self care can come in all different forms. Hitting up the nail salon, going for a run, stepping away to your master bedroom and taking a nap all are ways to reset and recharge. Finding a new hobby like baking, home projects, gardening that is something just for you will help improve your mood. It will keep you looking forward to something that doesn’t involve your family.
Self care can also include fueling your body with healthy food and taking the time to exercise. When your body feels good your mood will increase help tame any stress you have. You will sleep better, have more energy, and handle stressful situations throughout your day.
There are so many options online for free workouts. Use Pinterest to get inspired for healthy family meals.
Secret #5: Raise Independent Kids
Raising independent children to learn to take of themselves and help out around the house is an important life skill. Not only does build confidence in themselves it also helps take some simple tasks off your plate. As your toddler to help with dishes, your older one to start making their own sandwiches or pack lunches. Having the kids start doing their own laundry is a great help to the never ending laundry.
The end of raising independent children is teaching them to take care of themselves. This could be learning to play alone and develop various development skills on their own. Motor skills, imagination, and natural problem solving can be learned from independent play. Hopefully as your kiddos build block towers and color on their own you will be able to finish up any of your other to-do’s around the house. Win win for everyone!
Set up a family meeting to determine some household chores for everyone to complete to help out around the house. Rewards for completing are always helpful!
Secret #6: Don’t Play the Compare Game
Social media is often only showing the good moments of motherhood. We all know that parenting has it’s ups and downs. Always remember that someones feed is only a highlight reel and you should compare yourself to these people. They also have tough days. No one’s life is perfect.
Instead of focusing on how you feel inadequate and not living up to someone’s motherhood journey focus on your strengths and what makes you special. There is no need to compete with other Moms. Letting go of this comparison is freeing. You will feel 10 lbs lighter once that self negativity is gone.
Go through your social media accounts and unfollow anyone that doesn’t bring you joy. Keep those that raise you up and cheer you on.
Secret #7: Master your Mornings
Getting a good start to the day will make it run smoother and help eliminate any stress. Getting up a hour before the rest of your house to work out, have a cup of coffee in silence, or time to get everything ready for the day. This quiet alone time will help set the foundation for the day so your to-do list will seem more attainable and not spinning out of control.
Starting the day off with calm and clear head will help manage the family chaos and give you a sense of empowerment to tackle any stressors. Take the time to do something you enjoy or wish you could tackle during the day that otherwise may not happen.
Set your morning alarm 15 minutes earlier each morning until you get to your desired wake time. Do something you enjoy, coffee, make up, read a book.
Hopefully you can start implementing some of these secrets in your day to make you a happy mom. I promise they will help eliminate stress and chaos in your household. When you feel good your family will notice. I hope these tips and tricks help you find more time in your day to enjoy special moments with your family. You got this Mama!
For more Motherhood life hacks check out this blog post with 30 Mom Tricks to try today.
